Over the span of our lifetime, and especially the last ten years of full-time ministry, Sharon and I have dealt with many hurts and dissapointments. We have endured many within the ministry, and many in our personal lives. Regardless of the situation, and regardless of who is causing the hurt, one thing stands true – hurt hurts!
However, I have learned, especially within the last couple of months through great prayer and searching, that what one does with the hurts and dissapointments is what really matters the most in the eyes of Almighty God. You see, James tells us that we will endure trials, heartaches, hurts, and dissapointments. He says in James 1:2-4, “My brethren, count it all joy WHEN you fall into various trials, knowing that the testing of your faith produces patience. But let patience have its perfect work, that you may be perfect and complete, lacking nothing.”
The truth is that we are going to face hurts and dissapointments in life. The unfortunate thing about it is that often, those hurts and dissapointments come to us from people in our lives that we love dearly, and those are the hurts that hurt the most. So, what do we do with them? This is the question that I have been dealing with lately. Honestly, it is a struggle, and often a wrestling match with the Lord. However, what I have learned from the scripture is that we just simply have to give those hurts to the Lord and allow Him to deal with them.
The Bible teaches us that when we have a problem with a brother, then we are to go to that brother and work out the problem. However, when you have gone to the person and shared your heart with that person, and have tried to work out the problem to no avail, there is only one thing that you can do, and that is to turn the situation and the person over to the Lord and ask God to do His work in His time.
The greatest key to putting the hurt in the Lord’s hands is forgiveness. When you have been hurt and dissapointed by someone, and there seems to be no answer, the only way that you can be relieved of the hurt and be able to turn the situation and the person over to the Lord is through true forgiveness. Through the power of the Holy Spirit that resides in a person who is saved and is a child of the King, we must truly forgive the one who has hurt us in order to receive relief from the hurt and to be able to turn it all over to the Lord.
Forgiveness cannot come if you continue to hold on to the hurt. Paul tells us in Ephesians 4:31-32 to “Get rid of all bitterness, rage and anger, brawling and slander, along with every form of malice. Be kind and compassionate to one another, forgiving each other, just as in Christ, God forgave you.” In other words, we are commanded as saved children of God to forgive, forget, and to move on with life as though the wrong never took place. Easy? NO! Possible? ONLY THROUGH CHRIST! But the good news is that when we forgive this way, we outwit Satan (2 Cor. 2:10-11) and God is pleased and glorified.
So I encourage you in your hurts and dissapointments. THEY ARE REAL! They hurt, I know because I have experienced them! But, do not let Satan defeat you with these hurts. God has a plan, purpose, and will for your life. If you are so preoccupied with the hurts though, you may miss God’s direction for your life.
If you are dealing with this type of situation, do what the Bible teaches! Go to the one who has wronged you and explain your feelings and attempt to work out the problem. If they are not willing, or insist on their terms and not God’s, then pray to the Lord for a spirit of forgiveness for that person. Forgive them in your heart and forget the wrong. Then, place it in Jesus’ hands, asking Him to have His will. Don’t try to take it back and don’t let Satan bring it back up in your life. Give it to the Lord and move on in the Lord’s will and plan for your life!
He loves you and cares for you and He will replace the hurt with Joy over what He has in store for your life!
God Bless-
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